A toxic relationship is different for everyone and in every situation. The levels of toxicity can vary, which often makes it difficult to identify when you are part of an unhealthy relationship. That said, even when it has been identified, there is the separate challenge of deciding to leave your partner.
There are several side effects associated with coming out of a toxic relationship, including anxiety and sleep deprivation, low self-esteem, and disordered eating. With treatment and support – whether from family and friends or a mental health professional – these symptoms can be overcome. Just remember that each person’s recovery is different, and how long it takes to recover is highly individual.
Fortunately, there are a few ways you can begin to move through the healing process in a healthy way. Keep reading for three tips to help get you started.
Feel Your Emotions
When you make the brave decision to leave an unhealthy relationship, it can bring up an array of painful and confusing feelings. Although you may be relieved about ending the relationship, you could also experience emotions such as sadness or hopelessness. No matter the type of relationship you are leaving, you may still grieve it and the positive times that once were had. You need to allow yourself to embrace the range of emotions that you are feeling – that way you will be able to start healing. Not allowing yourself the permission to process these feelings will only elongate your healing process.
You may also want to consider seeing a therapist to help you cope with your feelings. A mental health professional can address any lingering issues from the relationship and help you come to terms with your decision to end the relationship.
Being part of a toxic relationship can take a huge toll on your emotional and physical well-being. When involved in a relationship like this, it is all too easy to stop taking proper care of yourself, from defaulting to unhealthy habits to neglecting the hobbies that bring you joy.
Now that you are not tied into this relationship, you need to start making time for yourself and do things that you want to do. There is no right or wrong way to practice self-care: You may choose to try salt therapy, take more baths, go for a walk, read a novel, or even indulge in takeout while watching your favorite movie. This will allow you to start your physical, emotional, and mental healing process and start re-establishing what you enjoy guilt-free.
Do Not Check In With Your Ex
After any breakup, you have most likely been tempted to reach out to your ex-partner. As hard as it may be, it is often best to cut contact completely and allow yourself the opportunity to have quality alone time.
If you do reach out and start communication with your old partner, you may find yourself being drawn back in and being part of the toxic relationship once more. The same goes if they reach out to you. You do not need to engage with their conversations and try to build a friendship. Unless there are children involved and there is a true need to have contact, it’s best to cut ties completely and focus on moving forward.